Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales

Disney movies and chick flicks, they've put us in a weird position
 They distorted our reality, because we forget they're actually fiction
 Because in marriage, we either get better or bitter, either joy or remorses
 What we're doing isn't working, just like at the rate of divorces
 So how's your marriage, I mean come on, let's be honest
 Marriage seems more like a prison than the paradise they were promised
 We thought marriage was supposed to fulfill us and make us happy, not lonely
 But the truth is God's first priority is making you holy
 You say, "No one told me, it feels so odd
 That dating feels like a vacation, while marriage feels like a job"
 Yet the secret of joy if we just pull back to façade
 Is realizing most problems arise when we elevate our spouse to God
 Without knowing it, we fulfilled Romans 1: 25
 By our actions, extremes of truth about God for a lie
 We've exchanged God for lesser created things
 It's like a husband trading his wife for a 2D image on a screen
 Hoping it'll set us free, justifying the fumes we're choking
 Because if your marriage rests on anything but Jesus, it's resting on something broken
 Yet guys continually sacrifice their marriage on the altar of sex and lust
 I mean if our dollars were honest, they'd stay in pleasure we trust
 So men, grow up, put down the controller
 How about you lead her with grace instead of trying to control her
 Now I've never been married, but I'm a product of one that was nonexistent
 So don't tell me I don't understand the pain, don't tell me I don't get it
 So for the singles, become friends first before you ever become lovers
 Pursue Jesus as your foundation before you get under the covers
 Because, believe me, a strong friendship before marriage will make a good marriage after
 Marriage isn't just sex, it's conversation and laughter
 I mean some spouses barely even like each other, and the marriage seems like a dead end
 You might share a checkbook and a house, but are you actually friends?
 I mean, if marriage isn't a commitment, then what's the point of the vows we say?
 "'Til death do us part" really means "Until the feelings go away"
 Like, I'll stay with him, but only until it gets tough and my love shifts
 But I say imagine if a parent took that perspective with their kids
 Like can't you see it? The minute the kid spills something on the floor
 The mom's saying, "Forget it, I don't even love you anymore"
 No, it's just like marriage, to last you need the strength from above
 Because it's not love that sustains the promise, it's the promise that sustains the love
 I mean think about it, out of anyone, who's actually had the right to leave?
 God had every reason in the world that he still came for you and me
 And on the cross he paid it all, took our shame, and set us free
 When he could've called the legions of angels, he chose to stay on that tree
 From the cross, he looks you in the eye and says I'm taking this from my bride
 When you trust in me, you no longer have to hide
 Because of me, it is finished, you've been made new
 You're spotless, you're blameless, there's no sin in you
 Because his death was a proposal, he wanted you no matter the cost
 Where some guys propose on the knee, Jesus proposed on a cross
 So read Ephesians 5, whether husband or wife
 Wife honor your husband, husbands give up your life
 Just like Jesus gave himself up for his bride: the church
 So men, lead by serving by putting her first
 So die to self, put your flesh on a life sentence
 Because you don't fall out of love as much as you fall out of repentance